My Writing

Did you ever think you would become a Conscious Elder?  I hear people in my Death Cafes talk about how much the spiritual path has opened...

I have a 99 year-old client who is sharp as a tack! He says he has dementia. While the computer that is our brain may be slowing down,...

Both! End of Life Doulas help hospices achieve their mission! Hospice nurses and aides are angels! They are caring, empathic healthcare...

My friend of 30+ years is going through it big time. Her partner of 20+ years is dying. In two weeks- or perhaps two months- she will...

If you hate poetry, you will love Andrea Gibson, who died in July at age 49. I dare you to read this! Love Letter from the Afterlife By...

One day last month, I coughed 276 times in a day. And peed 16 times, 5 of which demanded that I rise from sleep. It was a bad day. I had...

My mom got her wish for death on April 25th, 2017, exactly 5 years and 2 hours after her eldest daughter, one of my two sisters, died....

Do you have someone who cuts your hair just the way you like it?  Or a massage therapist that you see when you need some healing touch? ...

"I wish I'd let myself be happier." One of the top five regrets of the dying is this desire for happiness.  Some people have the...

It is 13 years since my sister died. and In a few hours it will be 8 years since my mom died. In my tiny backyard, I wave to the...

So many amazing, hot women! Seventeen years ago when I went through menopause, I was hard pressed to find information about it, through...

I am not a 12-Step person but there are two 12-Step axioms that I just love. In my 60's, I think I finally get what they mean....

A woman cried in my arms when we finished her advanced care directive. "You have no idea what this means to me. I have been trying to do...

Mommy, before I was alive, was I dead like Daddy?"  Out of the mouths of babes, right?  This babe was a toddler, named Katie, asking her...

I want to have a sense of completion before I die, assuming I die slowly like 90% of us do. Dr. Ira Byock wrote about this. As we...

I started thinking randomly the other day about what I will miss seeing in my two daughters' lives when I die, whenever that is.  I will...

I did therapy on and off for a total of thirty years. I had a very high ACE (adverse childhood events) and it took me a minute. Or two. ...

Does it matter that the first evidence of a human burial rite is 100,000 years old?  By way of comparison, the wheel is only a 5,500 year...

My hero, Parker Palmer, in a recent interview with the Greater Good Science Center said something I love. He said, "I can't think of a...

Nike was wrong. Feel the fear and do nothing. I am feeling the fear.  And noticing what it feels like. Every day since Jan 20th, I...