How Do You Honor a Death Anniversary?

How do you honor the death anniversary of a loved one?

Here is a great hack!

In a recent Death Cafe that I facilitate, two women talked about the brilliant, creative and inspiring ways they honor their dead loved ones.

One goes to a decidedly unfancy restaurant, eats a simple meal, and tips the unassuming wait person the age her mom would be on the anniversary of her death. That waitress just earned a $100 tip and goodness knows, she needs it. Some years, the same woman has gone through five drive-through windows at fast food restaurants and gives a $20 bill to each person who hands her an order of iced tea.

The other woman loads up envelopes with some cash, a poem her son wrote and a little bio about him. She deposits these envelopes at the skate park her son frequented and at a nearby park for people to find. Sometimes she hands them out herself to people she feels will benefit from the gift.

I love these ways of honoring and continuing the legacy of our loved ones. They really touch my heart. They are great hacks!

I am going to give away ten $20 bills in the next two-three months to honor my mother and my sister, who are coming up on 9-year and 14-year death anniversaries, respectively.

Do you have a death anniversary hack? What ideas do you have to honor your dead people?