Grief is Love Looking for a Place to Go

I heard a new take on the phrase, "Grief is Love with no Place to go."

Instead, it’s "Grief is Love looking for a Place to go."

I love the idea that grief is an active state, that grief is looking, that grief and love are alive and well.

The first phrase conjures up an image of a shut door. The second phrase is open and evokes a sense of journey.

As a death doula and conscious dying educator, I get to learn from people who have endured a deep loss. They continue living with all the pain and all the love they feel.

They keep looking for the places they can give their love.

Their dead beloved person lives on in their heart, their spirit, their cells.

They mark the birthdays, the celebrations, the death anniversaries.

One woman told me about hiding little envelopes of money with a note in the skatepark where her son used to frequent. She paid it forward in memory of her precious child. She found a place of love for her grief.

Grief and loss; love and place. Its a fabulous, terrible journey, yes?