How Can You Do this Doula Work?

“I would say that happiness is the sweetness of desiring what you have, fully aware of its fragility, its brevity and its limits. Happiness isn’t the absence of sadness, but the capacity to hold reality without needing it to be otherwise.”

This quote by Stephen Grosz makes my heart happy.

I have always felt that the word 'contentment' captures the sweetness of desiring what I have. 

Likewise, I have always felt that the word 'acceptance' means to hold reality without needing it to be otherwise.

The idea that these peaceful states are in fact happiness is new to me.

And exciting.

When people ask me how can I do the work of being with the dying, I think that perhaps I am comfortable with the uncomfortable. 

But maybe its more that it brings me into that quiet, peaceful state of happiness.